Speak your truth, awaken your desire, and feel safe to be fully yourself in love.
Stop holding back. Start being held.
Hey, it’s Laurel.
Before you read on, put a hand on your heart and take one slow breath with me. In… and out. Notice what it feels like to arrive, even just for a moment.
If what you read below sounds like you, click the link to book a free clarity call. On that call, we’ll talk about what’s happening in your love life and what you’re longing for, and I’ll tell you honestly whether I think I can help.
In 3 months on the Rewilding Relationships Path...
Feel Safe to Be Your Whole Self
Use your Empowered Truth—a custom phrase that grounds your body before hard conversations, first dates, or vulnerable moments.
Speak Warmly & Repair Conflict
Say what you need clearly and warmly, and repair after conflict instead of blowing up or shutting down.
Unapologetic Desire Mapping
Understand what turns you on and shuts you down with your personalized Desire Map, sharing it with a partner without shame.
Discernment Without Guilt
Walk away from people who can’t meet you, without months of second-guessing or hoping they’ll change.
...so connection and pleasure feel easy, playful, and alive again.
Laurel Van Woerkom
Sex & Relationship Coach
Most of us were never taught how to do it.
I certainly wasn’t. I grew up in a house where shouting was normal and nobody knew how to resolve conflict, so I carried that into every relationship I had. Some partners wouldn’t tolerate it. Others matched it and escalated it to scary places.
I also carried a lot of guilt and shame around sex. I was sexually active and curious, but I never felt free. I felt objectified, and I chased validation from partners and men in general. I craved their affirmation, yet when it came, I was unable to hear it.
It all came to a head when I was 27, in a relationship where we played out our wounds on each other, with no idea how to handle conflict in a loving way. Things got scary. There was verbal abuse, and one physical fight that shook me to my core.
My next partner had zero tolerance for me raising my voice. That’s when I started learning nonviolent communication and studying how relationships actually work.
In 2019, I began practicing ethical non-monogamy, which forced me to get much, much better at communication and repair. As I traveled the world, partners along the way opened my eyes to conscious relating and taught me what it means to truly love. I found tantra and sacred sexuality, and I began to feel how energy moves between people, and how often we’re taking when we think we’re giving.
I’ve since deepened that work through the International School of Temple Arts (ISTA) and Layla Martin’s VITA Coaching Certification. I’ve been a relationship coach for 6 years, guiding people back to their voice, their desire, and themselves.
Today, I don’t feel guilt or shame about my sexuality. I ask for what I want. I rarely raise my voice, and when I do get triggered, I know how to repair and come back to love. I’ve left relationships where our values didn’t align, or where a partner lied or cheated, and I now choose partners with far more discernment. I’m not perfect—I’m still learning through my own relationships every day, but I’ve come a long way and I know the path.
I keep my practice small so we can do deep, transformative work.
- Want a quick formula or magic trick to fix your partner.
- Want me to take your side instead of seeing the full picture.
- Aren’t willing to look at your own part in recurring patterns.
- Understand your patterns, but still play them out.
- Keep having the same fight with the same partner or with every partner.
- Shrink, go quiet, or seethe in resentment instead of speaking up.
- Want intimacy to feel connected, playful, and alive again.
The Rewilding Relationships Path
12 weekly 1:1 sessions engineered to transition you from shrinking and bracing to relaxed, playful embodiment.
Reclaim · Safety to Be You
“No amount of talking things through will get you what you want if, deep down, you don’t feel safe to fully express yourself.”
We dig beneath what you think you want to find what you’re truly longing for. You’ll create your Empowered Truth, meet the parts of you that learned to contort to be lovable, and learn to separate your own feelings from what you’ve absorbed from partners or parents.
Reveal · Finding Your Voice
“Learning to speak your truth boldly can unlock desire and satisfaction beyond your wildest dreams.”
We open up the voice you’ve been holding back with breath and sound. You’ll master the language of needs and repair, and use Aspecting practices to step into live conflicts from every side (including your partner's) to understand what's really happening.
Rekindle · Awakening Desire
“With a solid foundation of safety and self-expression, desire has room to bloom.”
Rediscover what you actually like through self-pleasure practices, tantric breathwork, and building your personal Desire Map. We bring presence, ritual, and play back into intimacy so pleasure isn't confined to performance.
“We’re not actually separate. We’re always in relationship, with everything and everyone.”
The pendulum swing between patriarchy and modern feminism has left many at odds. Many women carry generations of unspoken anger; many men are lost in changing dynamics. Yet we are wired for connection. I want to help you give and receive intimacy with sovereignty and warm devotion.
“I booked a session with Laurel to work on a repeating trauma pattern I had with my partner. Our session helped me immensely to drop the individual story around each incident and to see the common emotional elements. After sharing with my partner we’ve both been able to defuse every trigger since without it escalating to conflict. Laurel as a person is beautifully empathetic and present and I highly recommend trying a session with her.”
“Laurel is incredible at what she does. I had issues with being in my own way in romantic relationships, and she helped me overcome them—becoming more open to showing myself and to a relationship with a good person. I’m forever grateful to her for helping me understand the pitfalls and how to overcome them in the healthiest way possible. I highly recommend her to anyone looking for personal and spiritual growth.”
Rewilding Relationships Mentorship
A 3-month high-touch private coaching container to evoke lasting transformation.
FREE BONUS: Come Closer Conversation Cards
Everyone who joins receives a complimentary physical deck of Come Closer Conversation Cards to spark playful, intimate conversations about sex, love, and desires.
Step 2: We’ll talk about what’s happening in your love life, what you’re longing for, and whether this path is the right way to get you there. If it’s not, I’ll tell you, and point you toward what might help instead.
Come Closer Conversation Cards
A thoughtfully designed card deck engineered to dissolve awkwardness, evoke playful intimacy, and open profound conversations about love, desire, and emotional connection.
